To be honest I’m impressed this movie managed to keep me engaged enough to finish it, as I must say that this must be the most idiotic movie I’ve seen in ages. Somehow however I’m kinda glad I did, as it was a bit of an eye-opener to how extremely bad some relationships really are. To sum the movie up in one sentence; guy have problems with girlfriend, go out get drunk, cheat on his girlfriend with a girl who refuses to take the morning after pill = receipe for disaster. The story evolves around these three main characters, and the two womens relationship to the shared man. The two female characters are both extremely irrational human beings, letting their feelings get the best out of them constantly. The guy is to some degree at least trying to act rational, while the females are being portrayed as these horrible, over-reacting, jealous, boring and emotional unstable creatures.
Mindy is this girl Fred picks up in a bar. They have a drunk evening with unprotected sex. Must have been pretty amazing behind the scenes because I can’t seem to understand where this special bonding between them happens. All the suddenly the main character, Fred, decide to leave his irrational girlfriend for the last two years and switch her out with this crazy new girl that he had drunken sex with once. Mindy, however, is also irrational, sneaking through the guy’s phone, while he’s yelling at his then current girlfriend for always nagging him and that she doesn’t show him any respect, blablabla. I fail to see where Mindy is the better option, or why she had to be an option at all. Fred realising that non of them are good enough for him, non of them show him the respect he deserves, and he decide to go single solo would be a much better outcome of this shitpiece of a “love” story… To be fairly honest though Fred also doesn’s give the women the respect they deserve. He is constantly yelling at them, trying to manipulate Mindy to take the pills, disrespecting his girlfriend, cheating on her etc. This movie is full of lessons on how not to be in a relationship, and warning signs of how you can end up if you are a complete self-obsessed ego who only care for yourself. Karma I think they call it. Give shit – get shit.
Mindy having the time of her life with Fred the morning after he cheated on his girlfriend with her.
I had to google what kind of reviews this movie actually got, because I assumed most of them would have given it low ratings. To my surprise it was actually pretty hard to come accross extremely negative reviews. The worst I could find was from NY Post which gave it a 38 / 100 on Metacritic. Sarah Stewart / NY Post sum it up oh so good:
“….full of gender stereotypes and all-around bad behavior. There’s no one here to root for”
Completely stereotyped. You don’t want anyone of them to find love, especially not with each other. They are just not right for each other, or anyone else out there. I guess this movie just tells us that stupid people will end up with stupid people, and they probably deserve each other.
I also felt that the review from Slant was pretty accurate to my own personal experience of the movie:
The situation loses its appeal once we leave this original premise and Mindy’s strangeness begins to look like mere naiveté.
Mindy had so much potential. She could be fucking with Freds head, and been on birth control all the time, and that would make for a much better movie. But that she’s actually not on it because of “her religion” is just plain retarded. So what about condoms? What about STDs? Really girl, if you are THAT stupid than don’t fucking have sex and force another persons destiny unwillingly upon them. Clearly a no-go signal, and nothing you should be dating. As I see it both Mindy and Freds girlfriend are two of the same piece of inedible cake. There’s not much differences between them when it comes to how their wired in the brain and whatever comes out of their mouth, as well as their lack of reflective ways of actions. If you don’t make yourself better, you won’t get anything better. Are you being a jealous, cheeting bastard you will get a cheeting bastard.
Get me right. These characters are actually highly believable, and I do think alot of people get into relationships like this without even thinking about a more profound level of geniuine respect and love. They just go for the one option they are being offered without thinking that there might be other, better, options out there. But do believe me, there is. There is always something else, and you can always find something better, more suitable for you!
People are highly different from each other, we think and processes thoughts in a variety of different ways. We need to understand that we are indeed different, and accept that we think differently. A relationship where you demand, and expect something based on your own emotional state of mind is not a healthy place to be in.
A good relationship is based on trust, respect and love. If you don’t have all three of them your relationship is doomed to fail. You need to have it from start. You need to give love in order to receive love, and you need to be able to appreciate the love you are getting. You need to trust someone in order for them to trust you, you need to show the other person they can trust you, and most of all you need to respect that they are different. Respect their space, respect their way of actions. Appreciate it, love it as best as you can. Never ever go into a relationship and think you can change a person. If you see defaults unsuitable for you, get out. If you see something that won’t work for you in the long run (if that is what you are looking for), stop and get out!
Lesson to take from this? Don’t pull up with bullshit! For me personally there are a few things I for sure know would kill a loving relationship, and make me feel like I’m slowly dying heavily on the inside. I choose to stay away when I see those warning signs. I know there are so many better matches with me than “just accepting” how a person already live their life. If the other person have a lifestyle that is not compatible, that’s just how it is. Let it go and move on!
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